The big day is fast approaching, and your gut is in knots. Yes, you’re marrying the love of your life, but it’s dawning on you that this is the new beginning of a major chapter in your journey. So many things are running through your head right now! Dr. John Patrick Keefe II knows just what you’re going through, and he’s here to help you quiet your mind before you say “I do.”
As a wedding officiant in OKC for many years, Dr. John Keefe has seen his share of wedding day jitters. Here are a few tips from his personal files that will surely help you shake your fears and calm your nerves:
- Do something nice for yourself: If you are feeling overwhelmed by wedding plans, tux rentals, gown options, and other related wedding-day rituals, comfort yourself with a little pampering. You might visit a day spa for some primping or maybe play a game of pool with your buddies at the local watering hole. Whatever you do, make sure it’s something non-wedding related.
- Meet with a counselor or clergyman: Sometimes having someone to talk to about your wedding day fears significantly helps diminish your worries. This person should not be your fiancée but rather a good friend, family member, therapist, or minister. Dr. John Keefe, an Oklahoma City wedding officiant, takes great joy in speaking with individuals or couples that he is about to unite in holy matrimony.
- Clear your head by spending time in nature: There is so much to be said about the calming effects of being in nature. Whether you take a hike through the forest, sit on the dock of the bay, or simply stargaze off your back porch, you’ll find that these little moments in the midst of creation will soothe your frayed nerves and help you to focus.
- Indulge in a glass of wine: If you’re not a wine drinker, then the cocktail of your choice will also work. However, limit yourself to only one or two drinks as drunkenness only makes your problems worse. Sometimes, sipping on a glass of wine or having a beer can help you to relax a bit. Sip and chat about your fears with a friend or neighbor and glean the comfort that you need.
- Take a hot bubble bath/shower: There’s nothing more relaxing than slipping into a tub filled with bubbles and hot water. Lay back, close your eyes, and let those wedding day jitters swirl down the drain. Spend some time in your bathroom retreat thinking about how wonderful your life with your partner is going to be.
Getting married is never something to take lightly, but it should be a day of stress-free joy. At the end of the day, it’s not about gowns, the band, food, or photos; it’s about you and your love making a lifelong commitment to one another. Remember, you and your partner are getting married because you decided a long time ago that you were good for each other. There’s nothing that can ever tear your bond apart so relax and look forward to your impending nuptials.
