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Ever since June 24, 2014, when the Tenth Circuit Court of Appeals in Colorado made same-sex marriages legal in Oklahoma & other states via Kitchen v. Herber & Herbert v. Smith and then in 2015 when the United States Supreme Court made marriage equality the law of the land in the entire United States of America via Obergefell v. Hodges, wedding officiants and ordained ministers at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies have been officiating lesbian wedding ceremonies and gay weddings. Indeed, marriage equality and the resulting same-sex wedding that have resulted from the judicial relief have brought increased prosperity, equality, and have further enshrined civil rights for the 2SLGBTQIA+ community throughout the USA.
While some narcissistic, evil conservatives are trying to undo marriage equality in the United States, pushing to rollback equal rights for those who are gay, lesbian, transgender, etc., gay marriage officiants and transgender wedding ministers at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies will never concede their civil rights nor those of their 2SLGBTQIA+ clients. Indeed, why conservatives insist upon cruelly depriving others of things like healthcare, the right to make decisions about their own bodies, the right to marry whomever they love, etc., is as maddening as it is stupid. Nonetheless, each lesbian wedding officiant and LGBTQIA wedding pastor at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies remains committed to liberal-minded, best practice methods, which include officiating gay marriage ceremonies and lesbian weddings. 😊
Before we continue, we must define what the acronym 2SLGBTQIA+ stands for, because some people reading this page might not have any knowledge of it. Thus, the acronym above means the following:
2S = 2-Spirit: This refers to Native Americans who are transgender.
L = Lesbian = This refers to a woman who is sexually attracted to another woman, be they cisgender or transgender.
G = Gay = This term is most often used to denote a man who is sexually
attracted to other men, be they cisgender or transgender.
B = Bisexual = This means someone who is sexually attracted to both men and women.
T = Transgender = This refers to someone whose gender does not align with what the doctor stated was her/his/their “sex” at birth. However, since gene variants help cause people to be transgender in the first place, women and men who are transgender are indeed the biological sex they state they are as a trans person.
Transgender people can also be non-binary, which means they
do align with being male or female. Some people think of being nonbinary as being gender neutral. Indeed, others who are transgender are gender fluid or are one of seventy-two or more genders.
Q = Queer/Questioning – Queer often refers to people who are pansexual, where they are more sexually/romantically attracted to people based on who they are as a person rather than their age, gender, etc. It can also refer to a person who is asexual, whereby the individual does not have an interest in or need for sex. It can also mean genderqueer, which describes nonbinary and genderfluid persons.
The “Q” can also refer to someone who is questioning their gender, sexuality,
or both. Indeed, since gender and sexuality are both on a spectrum, some people, especially teens and young adults, might be trying to figure out where their gender, sexuality, or both really are. This can take some people who are unsure some time as they figure it out, and that is okay. Most people do not stay questioning their gender and sexuality forever, though it is plausible for some people to do so.
I = Intersex – Some people are born with extra sex chromosomes or may be missing some sex chromosomes. People who are intersex may consider themselves to be one or more genders like male and female, or they may even be nonbinary. Intersex persons may have the sexual reproductive systems and secondary sex characteristics of both males and females. Thus, a person who is intersex may have both a penis and a uterus.
A = Asexual/Aromantic – These individuals do not have any sexual or romantic feelings toward others, and this often has a genetic and/or hormonal cause.
+ = Plus – This “Plus” refers to a broad category of anyone else who does not fit into any of the descriptions above, relative to their gender and/or sexuality.
Now that our gay ordained ministers and transgender wedding officiant at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies have defined the basics of what it means to be 2SLGBTQIA+, we can discuss how it all relates to wedding ceremonies, event planning, and photography and videography. 😊
Many women who are lesbian get married in a lesbian marriage ceremony, which is when two women are attracted to one another commit their lives to one another as wife and wife. Really, it is just “marriage” or “wedding ceremony” and not a “lesbian wedding ceremony,” but we need the keywords to rank on Google. 😉 At any rate, there are some definite things that any LGBT justice of the peace who is planning to officiate a same day wedding ceremony for an LGBT couple needs to know before starting.
In conservative, uneducated, religious states like Oklahoma, it is very possible that a lesbian couple may not have the approval and support of their families and/or friends. If this is the case, the two brides may want to have a smaller, more private wedding or may need help finding witnesses to help sign their marriage license. Whenever this happens, rest assured that each wedding minister and gay wedding officiant in Oklahoma at our organization is prepared to help. 😊
Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies offers all kinds of wedding ceremonies, from those intended for larger weddings to smaller, more private elopement marriage ceremonies and simple wedding signings for couples wanting something faster, cheaper, and more private. No one else other than the court clerk and anyone looking on the Oklahoma Supreme Court Network need know that the nuptials ever took place. Indeed, the court clerk can be discreet about it, and if anyone from the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, questioning, or other LGBTQIA+ community needs help removing their marriage from public record we can help with that, too by helping you file a court order to seal the records! 😊
Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies also helps provide witnesses for people who need two adult witnesses to sign off on their marriage license. Yes, this applies for anyone, not just those from the LGBTQIA+ community. Many times, members of the military, wedding couples from out of state, those with few friends or family members in the area, and those who want to keep their nuptials more private may enlist the help of our ordained wedding minister for gay wedding ceremonies and same day wedding officiants to help them obtain witnesses. Securing two adult witnesses will cost an extra fee, but our gay wedding pastor and transgender ministers are more than happy to provide them if you provide enough notice.
Each marriage minister for lesbian marriages keeps in mind that two females most often prefer to be called “wife and wife” or “fiancée and fiancée” throughout the process. The term “bride” is also very appropriate as well. This is true even if one of the brides is more masculine-looking or butch, as many lesbian couples often, but not always, have one bride who is more masculine-looking and the other who is more feminine looking. Yes, to some degree “opposites attract” in romance, even among two men or two women.
As noted earlier, a lesbian couple or other LGBTQIA+ marriage couple prefer a more private, secluded wedding venue where they can be away from toxic, homophobic bigots from the public or even family and friends who are anti-LGBTQIA+. For this reason, the gay ordained ministers and lesbian justices of the peace proudly offer our organization’s office free of charge. We also have other LGBTQIA+ friendly wedding venues in Oklahoma that are secluded or otherwise safe for lesbians, gay people, bisexuals, transgender persons, and so on. 😊 If you or someone you know needs a same day wedding or needs a discreet wedding venue, please just ask us! 😊
Because Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies is based out of a conservative state like Oklahoma, our officiants and gay marriage ministers cannot even remember the vast number of times when our organization has received calls or text messages from hesitant LGBTQIA+ marriage couples asking if we even officiate same-sex or transgender weddings. It is a sad reality of life, as of time we are publishing this page, that in the USA any cleric or marriage officiant can legally discriminate against LGBTQIA+ or indeed any couples they do not wish to officiate a marriage for simply because it “violates their religious beliefs.” Honestly, this is stupid and is such a load of crap. “It violates my religious beliefs” just means that they want the right to be an uneducated, religious bigot that is very narcissistic, primitive, and has extraordinarily little understanding of science and compassion. ☹
Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies has been officiating weddings for people in Oklahoma ever since it first became legal here in 2014, and every marriage pastor and ordained minister for lesbian, gay, and transgender weddings is very affirming of everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community. Thus, yes, we will always perform same sex marriage ceremonies and will open our office doors as a wedding venue in Oklahoma City that always welcomes transgender wedding ceremonies and others in the LGBTQIA+ community.
No two lesbian marriage ceremonies are alike. As such, you may find the two brides and other members of the wedding entourage could potentially wear a variety of clothing. This may vary in color, as many weddings have color themes. The two lesbian brides may also both wear dresses, or the more feminine bride may wear a dress while the more masculine one dons a tuxedo.
It is important for each wedding minister for gay wedding ceremonies and lesbian ordained minister to remember that all wedding couples, regardless of their gender, ethnicity, creed, sexuality, nationality, etc., be allowed to wear the clothing they want for their big day. All wedding officiants for lesbian marriages and transgender marriage ministers at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies have received special instructions on sensitivity and empathy for a diverse range of wedding attire. 😊
When any officiant with Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies officiates a gay marriage ceremony or a same-sex wedding in Oklahoma, it is particularly important that they ask if the lesbian wedding couple or transgender wedding couple wants any pictures or videos of their nuptials put onto our organization’s social media online. Indeed, anyone with a privacy concern for whatever reason may wish to keep their nuptials private. Each transgender wedding minister and nonbinary wedding officiant in Oklahoma City with Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies will take the extra step to be extra cautious and courteous of the needs of LGBTQIA+ wedding clients and others with privacy concerns. 😊
While there are plenty of religious lesbians in Oklahoma, because, well, it is the buckle of the Bible belt here, many lesbians and other members of the LGBTQIA+ community are less likely to be religious. Indeed, believers of conservative sects/cults of Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, etc., tend to be very anti-LGBTQIA+ and will willingly shout to their congregants how “sinful” it is to be LGBTQIA+. Likewise, these same religious whackos will encourage their “flocks” of brainwashed followers to vote for politicians who help to further strip away the basic rights and dignity of people who are lesbian, gay, transgender, nonbinary, etc., in a sadly misguided effort to feel superior to others around them. For this reason, many in the LGBTQIA+ community completely shy away from religion and do not want a religious wedding ceremony.
Each justice of the peace and same sex wedding minister at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies is more than happy to help conduct either a religious marriage ceremony or a nonreligious wedding ceremony for LGBTQIA+ couples and indeed anyone else seeking to get married in Oklahoma. We can accommodate any loving, kind, pro-LGBTQIA+ religion out there, or our same sex ministers and transgender justice of the peace can also officiate a same day atheist wedding ceremony for you. 😊
For gay weddings with two same sex couples who are both male, many of the same precautions and special considerations that apply for lesbian marriages also apply to gay weddings. The only real difference will be that the men will want to be addressed as “husbands” and “grooms.” The term “fiancé” will also apply to both, as opposed to “fiancée,” and the gay couple may prefer the term “spouse” as well. It is important that each same sex wedding officiant and gay wedding pastor at Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies uses the correct male pronouns, whether the men are transgender or cisgender.
All the special precautions and considerations for other members of the LGBTQIA+ community also apply to transgender marriage couples, but these members of the LGBTQIA+ community also have some additional special considerations that each officiant or transgender minister should also keep in mind.
When officiating a wedding ceremony for transgender couples, it is vital that the gay wedding pastor and ordained minister for transgender weddings remember that gender and sexuality are not the same thing. Gender refers to how you express yourself and mannerisms, while sexuality and romantic attraction guide whom you love as a partner or spouse and might want to marry. With transgender wedding couples, it gets slightly even more complex.
A justice of the peace or same sex marriage pastor may find that a transgender couple may consist of any of a variety of genders and sexualities. Below you will find a non-exhaustive list of what you might encounter at a marriage ceremony for transgender couples:
There are so many possibilities of gender and sexuality, so it is important to never assume. Provided the two people are of consenting legal age and no one is forced, their gender, sexuality, age, ethnicity, race, nationality, etc., really do not matter. This is not to say they are not important and should not be respected, because all persons are important and deserving of respect and dignity. It is just that these differences in people’s diversity should never become big issues or cause problems.
If you are ever unsure of a wedding couple’s gender or sexuality, a lesbian wedding officiant or transgender justice of the peace may always inquire with good intent in private if clarification is needed. It is okay to ask what a person’s pronouns are, though generally inquiring about a wedding couple’s sexuality might not be as relevant to the transgender wedding itself. Either way, always use the appropriate pronouns – especially during the wedding ceremony itself!
Misgendering a person who is transgender is equivalent to calling a Black person the N word. It is never, ever acceptable, not even once or accidentally. If you are unable to keep from misgendering a person who is trans, then keep your mouth shut. Misgendering a transgender individual is a hate crime, and some countries will prosecute you for doing so. Eventually, as the United Staes of America evolves more, our country will do so as well in the future.
Many transgender persons have not yet been able to change their legal names on their identification. Thus, their legal names may be vastly different from the names they go by. If you ever need clarification or are unsure, a justice of the peace or same sex wedding minister must always ask their transgender wedding couple what names they prefer. Indeed, this is even sound advice for transgender officiants and same day ministers to ask cisgender couples, too, because many people have nicknames or go by their middle name, etc.
Deadnaming a transgender person is when someone calls a person who is transgender by the name they received from their parents at birth. Since most names are gender specific, the person does not go by their old name because it is their “deadname.” Their deadname reflects a person they no longer are, as it is not a part of their current story. It is the same when adoptive parents change the name of their newly adopted baby or when someone gets married and changes her/his/their name to that of their spouse’s. You no longer use the old name for an adopted baby or newlywed spouse, so the same holds true for someone who is transgender.
Just like with misgendering, deadnaming someone is also illegal, immoral, and unethical. None of the marriage officiants or same sex wedding pastors for transgender persons will ever engage in deadnaming or misgendering a transgender person. All our officiants and ministers are very LGBTQIA+ friendly, and our organization is a definite LGBTQIA+ safe space. 😊
As a rule of thumb, it is never okay for anyone, especially an ordained minister, to reveal the gender of a trans person to anyone else without that person’s express consent. At Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies, we do not point out that anyone is transgender to other people unless the transgender individual has already consented. Indeed, doing so can be dangerous and can threaten the life of the transgender couple, especially in uneducated, more religious, more conservative, backwards states like Oklahoma.
Bisexual marriages can vary on the needs they have, though a justice of the peace should always respect and honor the privacy of all persons regardless. Bisexual couples can be of any gender, race, age, etc., and if they are not cisgender then they may need special considerations we talked about above for transgender persons. If you have two females marrying or two males getting married, then a bisexual wedding ceremony will require that the same sex wedding minister officiating a same day wedding to consider what we mentioned above about gay weddings and lesbian marriage ceremonies. Just be considerate of one another and each person’s unique needs. 😊
Nonbinary weddings can entail some of the same issues that require special consideration many other members of the LGBTQIA+ community we spoke about above may need. However, nonbinary marriages do tend to have a few concomitant specifications that it behooves all ministers and officiants to have a clear understanding of what they are.
Since nonbinary people, also sometimes referred to as gender neutral persons, are not one gender or the other, instead of going by “husband” or “wife,” they may have other preferred titles. Some of these include, but are not limited to, the following:
Remembering these gender-neutral references can help nonbinary wedding officiants and their nonbinary wedding couples alike have more success with the nuptials and find more satisfaction out of the wedding ceremony itself. 😊
It is also important to remember that wedding couples of any gender or sexuality, but especially those who are members of the LGBTQIA+ community, may be more likely to have a wedding party with non-traditional roles. As such, a same sex marriage officiant or a transgender marriage minister may find that the bride or groom’s side of the entourage standing next to them during the LGBT wedding may contain “bridesmen” or “groomsgirls” that may or may not accompany those in more traditional roles of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Quite frankly, that is simply fine. If they are all happy and living their best lives, let them shoot their shot and do as they wish. 😊
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