Just because the development of becoming ones true self is exhausting in general does not mean it has to be exhausting romantically. If you or your partner are overcoming the challenges of transitioning from your biological gender to your true gender, you probably know the struggle that comes with it. Transitioning can be draining physically and emotionally.
If you are lucky enough to have love on your side during the process, you will find that there is no better place to seek solace. As an M2F transgender wedding officiant in Oklahoma City, Tinsley Keefe is too familiar with the struggle. That is exactly why she makes an effort to offer advice to others going through similar obstacles. While the conflict can vary depending on whether you are pre-OP or post-OP, it is still there regardless.
Which is why, starting out, Tinsley reassures all of her pre-OP clients that they are strong enough to handle the battle. Even more, if the love they share with their significant other is true, that love is exactly what will pull them through to a new beginning. During all of the consultations and hormone treatments, you will want to have your love with you; offering support. As a wedding officiant in Oklahoma, Tinsley Keefe is constantly reminding her wedding clients – transgender, or not – that love is truly all you need.
With love, you have the ability to overcome even the most difficult of challenges. Of course, fear is only a natural instinct that is still burdening humanity. No one can blame you for being scared. However, you cannot let fear control you. If you are worried about something – especially your relationship – Tinsley reminds you that honesty is key. With the truth, true love rightfully prevails. If your significant other is not understanding, it is most likely not true love.
Moving forward, dating and marriage might be different for post-OP clients but that does not mean it is easier. While a member of the transgender community that is post-OP can have some advantages, they are far still from living a “privileged” life. As someone discovering their true gender for the first time, it can take years to get familiar and comfortable. Tinsley is constantly discussing with her OKC wedding officiant clients the impact that dating and marriage – and just love in general – can have on someone that is post-OP. When you have someone to explore with, everything seems less terrifying.
However, Tinsley also wants to stress to the members of the transgender community that are single: your love is out there. Love can find you when you least expect it. In fact, love will find you when you least expect it. Furthermore, as someone that works as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City, Tinsley also knows better than most that waiting to find true love is more than worth it. In the end, the bottom line is that if it is meant to be, they will stand by you through the struggle (whether you are pre-OP or post-OP) and they will also enjoy the happiness that comes after . . . and so will you.